As I near age 84, I realize that I will never understand people. I have known many different types with various character traits. I like most of those I know but occasionally I meet those who instantly cause a negative response. I never know WHY I get that feeling but I have learned to listen to it. I usually learn much later what I sensed at the first meeting.
All of us have many acquaintances but few real friends. As our months pass into years we learn from our experiences as we, like others, seek a better life. We meet new people; our priorities often change over the years and we learn to face whatever life brings – one day at a time.
We try to choose friends who are honest. It is too easy to believe that everyone is honest – but that isn’t true. Nothing irritates me so much as when I learn that someone has lied to me. How can we have any respect for a liar? The same reaction to a thief. If I have an item you like, tell me and I might give it to you. If you steal it, however, I will have quite a different reaction. The word angry would not cover it. We reach a point where we don’t believe anything these people tell us. We also learn not to leave them alone in our homes. Being judgmental is not my goal; I simply want to protect myself and those I love.
I don’t enjoy being around these parasites who always want something for nothing. There are so many who manipulate ANYONE THEY CAN; they find ways of gaining a lot at no cost. I don’t understand why so many believe that others are to give them whatever they want. These definitely are takers rather than givers and harm is done to my belief that we are here to love and help each other.
Where is their pride in achievement? They do as little as possible, usually have no goal and in general they grab benefits wherever they see them. These can include items, money or whatever they can get for free.
The sad fact is that most of these ‘takers’ believe that they are very cunning and smart. They believe that their ability to avoid jobs and/or responsibility makes them smarter than those who face responsibilities and support families.
The truth is that these are parasites; they want to always live or gain from the efforts of others. They aren’t interested in anything that takes any work. They almost laugh at the efforts of others who are trying to have a life.
Three things they do very well include watching television, playing video games and eat like a horse. Of course it is usually someone else’s items they are using – in someone else’s home. They have no home, never tried to get one and prefer it this way. Homeowners have responsibility and the parasites refuse to have any part of this. They live from week to week, month to month, on someone else’s dime, which is the only goal they have.
Just a thought: if you know such people, have you noticed that they always have the very latest electronic toys and/or devices? Amazing what they consider most important in life.
Many of us know of those with the personality of a parasite. Sadly, it doesn’t have to be acquaintances; these can be our relatives or even close family. Even so, unless there is a physical reason for their actions, or non-actions, I will be happy to stay away from them !!!
84-year-old Lura Zerick is the mother of 5 adults, grandmother of 12 and great-grandmother of 7. She was born and raised in the Florida Panhandle. and now lives in S.E. Alabama, near Geneva. Lura has been involved in writing since 1965. Her freelance articles are published in regional and national magazines.