So, why do we do it? Here’s my top 10 list:
- Someone said we need to eat 3 meals plus snacks every day, or we’ll die.
- We have nothing else to do so we eat.
- We’re addicted to sugar and we just eat more sugar.
- Comfort food is yummy.
- To deal with our stuff.
- To be social – someone took the time to make something, so I better eat it.
- The clock said so or see #1.
- We love the crunchy, salty, savory, sugary, feel and tastes.
- Mom said to clean your plate.
- Those free samples at Costco.
What do all of these have in common? They are related to habits. A Duke University study says at least 45% of our waking behavior is habitual. While we’d like to believe “we’re in charge”, it turns out we’re driven by our subconscious or unconscious mind. It’s amazing and yet disturbing. Happily, there has been an increase in grounded findings, based on neuroscience that have helped clear a path over the last few years. To build an effective NEW habit, you need five essential components:
- A compelling reason
- A trigger
- A new micro-habit,
- Effective practice
- A plan
Easy stuff, right? Yeah, right!
I used to be a serious grazer, especially at night. I can look back at that time and know the trigger was sitting at the kitchen table after dinner and watching mindless TV.
My compelling reason was to improve me over all health. I now know the snacking did nothing except trigger an insulin response telling my body to store the excess as fat, which it did flawlessly!
The trigger was staying at the kitchen table after dinner. I wanted the crunchy, salty, savory or sweet something.
My new micro habit was to leave the table. Oh duh! I would go read, meditate, write, but I left the table. How simple was that? Holy cow.
I’d practice in small chunks. After leaving the table I would find the new habit like reading 10 pages or mediating for 15 mins. (which I still do most evenings)
When I’d stumble and stay at the table on a Sunday night after a family dinner, I don’t beat myself up and say I’m a loser, I’m resilient and do better the next day. Beating yourself up with shame and guilt is something so many people do. Just let it go.
When you put all this together you’ve created a new habit. Voila! This stuff is simple, but not easy. It’s hard to change your lifelong behaviors and it takes courage to make a change. Go easy on yourself.
Pat Garner holds certifications in Professional, Addiction & Recovery Coaching, is a Sedona Method Facilitator and a Certified Canfield Success Principles Trainer. Most recently, a number of her articles on addiction and wellness have been featured by the World Coaching Institute. She has earned the reputation as a dedicated leader and advocate of change.
During her own journey from addiction fifteen years ago, Pat discovered the world of holistic health and wellness that led to her adopt and promote a ketogenic lifestyle that has become an integral part of her mission to awaken people to their infinite potential so they can achieve lasting personal success in all areas of life. Pat invites reader comments and questions.