Put That Phone Away!

I (Barbara Morris) was out to dinner with my daughter and son-in-law and during a lull in the conversation I whipped out my cell phone to scan messages.  My daughter called me out about it and she was right. Those little boxes have taken over our lives and changed us and our behavior more than we want to admit. So I was happy to see Barbara Pachter’s Top 10 Smartphone Annoyances in the Workplace that I’m reproducing here for cell phone miscreants to read who may forget their manners whether they are in the workplace or at dinner:

1. Placing your phone on the table when meeting with someone.Having your phone visible tells the other person, “I am so ready to drop you and connect with someone else.” Plus, research has shown that the presence of the phone inhibits conversation. (This is true for group meetings, also.)
2.  Placing two phones on the table.Some people carry both a work phone and a personal phone. This doubles the insult! See above.
3. Using a cell-phone holder. When a phone is placed in a holder, the phone is upright on the table. People are no longer sneaking glances at their phones, they are directly looking at them while “listening” to others! This is just so rude. Read #1 again
4. Using a Bluetooth headset. This looks like a cockroach in your ear.  (Yes, I do have strong opinions about this.)  I am not talking about the hands-free headsets that receptionists use. I am talking about the headsets worn all too often by people who chat away as they walk around the office, looking as though they are talking to themselves. Or, even worse, you think they are talking to you.
5. Wearing a Bluetooth necklace. Though these necklaces may be more discreet initially, once you use those earbuds, it’s too easy to leave them in your ears or let the cords dangle on your chest.
6.  Texting under the table. Texting under the table during a meeting is disrespectful to the speaker and to the other participants. You may think that your actions are not visible, but your body language gives you away. If you do not want people to text while you are speaking, don’t text when others are addressing the meeting. (Additional information about texting can be found in my new book, The Communication Clinic: 99 Proven Cures for the Most Common Business Mistakes.)
7.  Forgetting to put your phone on vibrate. This can happen to anyone. I know. I have forgotten. If this happens to you, say, “I’m sorry,” and turn the phone off immediately – and be especially apologetic if your phone continues to ring because you can’t find it quickly.
8. Answering your phone during a meeting – and then starting a conversation while walking out of the room. The reality of business today is that sometimes you must take a call during a meeting. But please wait until you are out of the room before talking. In some circumstances, you may need to answer and say, “I will be with you in a moment.” But again, wait until you are outside the room before you have your conversation.
9.   Speaking too loudly. I have been talking about the need for people to lower their voices for years. Many people speak far too loudly when they are on their phones.  Speak in a quiet, conversational tone. If you don’t, others may overhear your conversations, including any sensitive or confidential information you discuss.
10.  Using a ring tone that startles or scares people. You don’t want your colleagues or business associates to be shocked when your phone rings. What annoying phone habits have you observed in the workplace that are not on this list? Please add your comments

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