Trump Is Ruining My Love Life

Barbara Morris

Recently I joined a dating site and it’s been a journey into absurdity.  It’s also been a learning experience. You get to a place in life where you think you know everything about everything but I’ve found I must be living in a cave because I do not know anything about today’s liberated man. It has been fascinating and a culture shock in many ways.  Here’s a highlight of a bit of what I have learned about men who inhabit a dating site.

Once a man hits 75 he’s on a downward slide into senility. He doesn’t know it because he posts a photo of himself that is unsmiling, his eyes are blank and he’s looking angry and his mouth is hanging open. (I’m not kidding about the mouth hanging open). An aware man would not post such a photo. Or, he posts an undated photo that looks like Don Juan, but upon meeting the guy you find that Don Juan is a shriveled little old man. Nothing wrong with shriveled little old men, it happens to the best. It’s just not acceptable to misrepresent who you are.

Or, he posts a photo showing he has a beer belly, wears suspenders, a baseball cap, wrinkled shirt, grubby looking jeans, and he’s lounging in an easy chair with his cat or dog and he’s looking unhappy, even grumpy.  He is what he is but there is more than one way to present himself and unfortunately, he is too senile to know it. He doesn’t have to be in an easy chair looking like rigor mortis has set in. A woman looks at that photo and wonders if there is any life left in him. In his mind, the man is looking for a hot babe but such a photo is not going to attract one — it won’t even come close.

Ninety-five percent of all men approaching and over age 80 post a similar type of photo. It’s absolutely amazing that they don’t understand that they look like death warmed over. Certainly, some men in this age group look like they are still alive but photos are probably old so if they are in their eighties, I pass them by. I figure, and probably correctly,  that they are over the hill. They don’t drive farther than to the nearest Starbucks yet claim they like long drives in the country. One must assume that someone else is doing the driving because they are probably not competent enough to do it. And these guys are looking for a woman a lot younger than they are.  Which means I’m waaaay too old for them, thank God.

But, here’s the point I want to make. Politics can play a huge role in this. In your profile, you are asked to give a political orientation, and heaven forbid that you say you are conservative. I had a nice conversation with a man I would have liked to meet but he didn’t realize until belatedly that I am conservative. He could live with that, but worse — I am also a Trump supporter. That said, I don’t care for Trump’s, rude, crude rhetoric, and I am aware of his background with women but I can’t change that. I look past his sins and believe he really wants the best for our country, and for me, that’s what matters. Jesus forgives sin. Can I do less?

But back to that nice man I almost met. We had decided to meet until he realized, I guess, that he was a much better, a more virtuous and a more moral person than I am because he hated Trump for his past behavior with women.  As you might imagine, he decided he didn’t want to meet me after all. My attitude about that is “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone”.

These days I refuse to get angry about anything I can’t change. So, if you hate President Trump that’s great, have at it but it’s sad when hatred of your president can potentially ruin your love life. However, hope springs eternal that someday before Hell freezes over,  sanity will once again prevail or as Rodney King once said, “Why can’t we all just get along”?

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  1. Gale Phelps says

    I enjoyed this article. You tell it like it is. I voted for President Trump and have been highly critized by a few friends, for my choice. I also find many of his comments rude but do believe he is trying to help our country. Having just turned 70 in December, along with my husband, I feel we all have to keep our appearance up and enjoy all we can in life, whenever we can. It’s so sad and disturbing that this past election has brought so much hate among people, family members hardly speaking, friends argueing, etc. Here’s to better times!

  2. Paula Appel says

    Great article, I am definitely of your political persuasion and agree with your views of Trump. Love your newsletter!

    • Thank you so much for chiming in. I wish everyone felt the same way but alas, my article was the kiss of death for more than a few!


  3. Barbara Munson says

    Honesty turns me on! Great story, Barbara!

  4. Hey, Barbara, bravo to you for taking the plunge. I warned that it wouldn’t be easy and now you are finding that out. But maybe you will get lucky and find that elusive needle in the haystack. Please keep us posted, Barbara j.

    • Barbara, thanks for writing! I appreciate your support. Your warning was correct — it’s not easy. All the good guys seem to be taken or are living in a cave and don’t want to be found. But it’s not the end of the world. Life goes on.


  5. Hi Barbara – It seems liberals preach tolerance – unless you have a different opinion than they do! HA HA!
    Good luck with your foray into on line dating sites!!

  6. LOL! Once again, Barbara, you’ve nailed it!

    I’ver run into this myself and it counts among the long list of reasons I’ve decided not to date. Let me say right here that it is what I chose, and everyone must make their own decision about that. I must also tell you that the only fella that I did date, for a brief 6 months, was a Democrat. Our “mixed relationship” was doomed from the start. This dude couldn’t find much else to talk about beyond trying to show me the error of my ways. How obnoxious! He broke up with me, then proceeded to stalk me for 4X’s the amount of time we dated. I’m convinced he just couldn’t stand to not be able to convert me.

    In my youth, when guys didn’t necessarily dress much better, but they, themselves, were more presentable and attractive, I don’t remember politics ever being known, let alone a problem! I’m with you, I’m a Trump supporter. I don’t like his misdeeds, but my faith teaches me that 1. all sins are equal, and we all sin. 2. God often chooses imperfect people to do his perfect work, and 3. forgiveness is all. I didn’t choose Trump to marry, I chose him to lead the country. I’m pretty sure Jesus wasn’t running.

    Keep up the good work, my fine pharma friend!

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