Choose Civility


Let’s Treat Others As


We Want to Be Treated


“Civility is claiming and caring for one’s identity, needs and beliefs without degrading someone else’s in the process.” – Tomas Spath and Cassandra Dahnke, Founders of the Institute for Civility in Government


Are you appalled by escalating crudeness in our culture?
Are you fed up with disrespectful and disparaging language, often anonymous, used on the Internet and blogs?
Are you disturbed by lack of tolerance for unpopular or contrary opinions?
Are you concerned about bullying — not just among kids, but among adults?
Do you believe use of traditional common courtesies can help restore a civil society? 

You Can Help Improve the Culture

Join the Choose Civility movement.There are no dues, no entry requirements, no registration, no officers, and no hidden agenda. Everyone of like mind is welcome. Nothing is expected of you except that you agree to be civil in dealing with others, and that you encourage those with whom you have influence to support and promote the Choose Civility movement. 

There are many ways to express civility. Here are just a few:*

  • ·         Language. Choose not to use language that degrades or disrespects others (and yourself). For example, choose not to use the “F” word because it is classless and crude. It demeans the person who uses the word as well as those who hear it.
  • ·         Respectful disagreement. Choose not to deny others their right or opportunity to express their opinion because it does not agree with what you believe. Disagree without being disagreeable.
  • ·         Value and appreciate others. Manners matter. Choose to preface any request for help with ”Please” or better yet, “If you would be so kind as to . . . ” Silly? No. It defuses resistance and most important, it conveys respect, and everyone wants and deserves respect.
  • ·         Develop a spirit of gratitude. Choose to make eye contact and say “thank you” for any gesture of kindness. It reaps huge dividends in social, business, and family relationships. As a response to “thank you”, instead of saying “No problem” or “You bet” graciously say,”My pleasure.”

Your behavior today has a residual effect on you and ultimately, the culture. Choosing civility in all forms has the power to change people and their choice of behaviors.

If you decide to become part of the Choose Civility movement, pass this on to friends on Facebook and other social sites and encourage them to join and pass it on to their contacts.

  • ·         Add your own suggestions to help others Choose Civility

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Choose Civility is a project of United For Civility
Founded by Barbara Morris



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